Disclaimer: I am not an academic. I have not subjected my writing to academic rigour, I do not reference sources. I am simply expressing my opinion based on my reading and research.
What is Androcentrism?
My take: placing a masculine paradigm at the centre of one’s values, culture, and history, resulting in social, economic, and political advantages or rights that are available to men solely on the basis of their sex.
Otherwise known as male privilege.
You don’t have to be a bad person to benefit from unconscious privilege and recognising, being conscious of your privilege doesn’t mean saying you don’t deserve good things, or inferently a bad person.
Much privilege is an assumed right from taught behaviour, including religious indoctrination, and the socialisation and enculturation (moral / ethical principles learned via social osmosis) process. Such behaviours as overtalking women; mansplaining; assuming leadership; patronising and demeaning women’s behaviours: pay structures; sexual harassment et al.
It is apparent from what I read and on social media, that men imagine there’s a valid comparison between the discomfort they experience when confronted with their unconscious privilege, sexism, and heteronormative patriarchal paradigm, with the lifetime of harm that women experience from living in a world that assumes women are at most, 2nd class citizens and should be grateful for what they are given – including sexual harassment, as a gift. I wish I was being humorous.
The most extreme example of entitlement being INCELS. Incel stands for “involuntary celibate” – men claiming a right to sex with women and that right can justify violence; they get VERY angry at any rebuttal often harassing women as a result, even threatening refuseniks, it seems always asking why they are being “rejected” and then arguing because the women don’t know what they are missing! The online forum Reddit hosted Incel communities which had over 40,000 members.
This mindset has deep-rooted precedence. A throwback to mediaeval era. “Droit du seigneur,” a legal right granting feudal lords entitlement to rape women, in particular on their wedding night.
A more common manifestation of androcentrism is Domestic Abuse: Coercive and Controlling behaviour; Economic abuse; Emotional and Psychological abuse; Sexual abuse including rape (remember the law until 2003 stated a man was incapable of raping his wife, as by marriage she had given enduring consent); Physical assault, one woman in four experiences domestic abuse in her lifetime; Murder. two women are killed EACH WEEK by a current or former partner in England and Wales.
And then there is so-called Honour Based Violence. Mostly women, being controlled by male-dominant cultural values, prescribing a way of life which if deviated from “deserves” punishment, even death, to assuage the hurt to men’s pride.
Consider the male dominance over women in other cultures too, particularly Caliphates.
All this from reviewing and thinking deeply about the Gillette “The best a man can get” advert.
My purpose? Hopefully just to state my honest views and nudge men to an awareness many, apparently, do not have and adjust what needs adjusting.
Please, no “whataboutery”. I know, “Not all men”. I know “men are victims too”. Should you wish to discuss that, start your own discussion.